You're Only as Broken as You Choose to be

Don’t allow one bad chapter to break you forever, even if it was the worst. It may have been your longest chapter, or it may seem like it was your longest chapter, but sis, your next chapter will make that one look like what it was, a building block. So often, I read these posts that talk about how broken a person is after being with a narcissist, sociopath or other toxic person and that one will never be the same. Well, you’re not supposed to be the same, but honestly, you’re only as broken as you choose to be. Read that again, and again, until it sinks in.

It’s entirely up to you how you want that chapter to affect your future you. Don’t get me wrong, it’s definitely a defining moment. It doesn’t, however, have to define you as broken forever. If you use it as a catalyst for change; an opportunity to redefine your life, that will launch you into the most incredible experience of rediscovery and self-growth you could imagine. That experience will lead you to not only a better version of yourself, but a better, more fulfilled, happier life.

When I finally mustered the courage to walk away from my toxic situation and relationship, I was fortunate enough to fall into a business opportunity that ended up being a life saver and life changer. I became part of the most positive and encouraging tribe of women I’ve ever met and it allowed me to gain knowledge, creative skills, and marketing skills I was missing, but also made me realize I needed to dig deep and figure out myself. Afterall, I didn’t want to fall back into the pattern that led me to the series of bad choices I just left. I chose instead to treat that chapter as a catalyst for change; an opportunity to redefine myself and my life. Now, two years later, at the age of 59, I’m happier than I could have imagined, more settled and at peace, and even more comfortable in my own skin, while creating a life that makes me smile. I feel blessed every day now and know that I had to go through the pain to grow into the woman I am today, on the day of 59th birthday.

You too can choose to turn your worst chapter, into a catalyst for redefining your life and I’m happy to show you how. Please subscribe and watch for upcoming blogs, lives and podcasts.